There is much talk of setting boundaries in the personal growth space and whilst there are transitional benefits there are some significant backwards steps involved too. Understanding the nature of trying to control the outer world to make the inner world feel batter can help with un understanding of the impact.
Finding peace and freedom in life is a journey of realisation and a navigation through the subjective ideas that bombard us from all angles. Much of the advice that we recieve takes us backwards in ways that may not always be obvious.
As we strip back the nature of ourselves and regain the autonomy to control how we feel inside, we realise that our attempts to control and dictate to the outside world and people in it, leave us fragile and susceptable to offense, disappointment and emotional impact.
As we become dependent on the behaviour of others and or become susceptable to our world not meeting our expectations or being predictable, we see that setting expectations and boudaries will always result in constant manipulation of the outer world in order to manage the way we feel inside.
Finding true independence and balance allows the outer world to simply be as it is, without a need to control it or the fragility of unexpected or self declared unacceptable happenings taking away the way we feel.