Do you hate Monday's?
You must know the song, 'I don't like Monday's' by the Boomtown Rats? Monday's have a really hard time, there are countless Memes online you can post to show your fellow human that today is Monday and you're not happy about it. Check out your social media feed on a Monday morning, or even, on a Sunday evening, the pain people are sharing that soon it will be, or is that awful Monday morning. Monday morning blues, Blue Mondays, Monday has a pretty bad time of it.
People get up on a Monday morning to an alarm clock wishing it was already Friday. People wish away 4/7ths of their lives away each week, just because it's a Monday and proudly announce it to their friends and family. We can't wait to get to Friday, because for many, Friday is the start of the weekend! That means we can be happy, go to the pub, relax, not have to worry about waking up early, more time in bed. If we could just have a button to jump us from Monday to Friday, that would be great... yes?
How does your Monday play out? Is it something like this...
The alarm goes, you stumble out of bed, grumpy that it's Monday, and you hate Mondays, you commute on a packed train or a packed motorway, stressed about the kids not eating breakfast or little Tommie forgetting to brush his teeth, invariably a packed lunch is thrown together with some processed ham or cheese, a pepperoni and a fruit shoot. Convenient. You spend the day clock watching, planning what to do for dinner, what you're going to watch on the TV, wether tonight is a 'drinking night' or you should have the day off. Balls to that, you've had a bad day, even though you've just got to work. You make small talk in the kitchen, spend 10 minutes longer than you should in the toilet, just to get out of the office. Spend hours on social media chatting to your friends about your day, while the mountain of work piles up. Finally, the workday ends and you spend the next hour commuting home, exhausted from the stress of the day doing nothing and complaining about your situation. You flop onto the couch with a glass of wine, tell the kids they can play on their phones if they want and disappear into the banal stories pumped out of the TV. And so the day ends. Rinse and Repeat...
Who created Monday? Who told us that, at that precise moment in our existence, that it was called a 'Monday' what actually is Monday?
Monday doesn't exist. It's a made-up word that is used to delineate a 'day', not just any day, but the day that starts the week. But who created the week? What actually is a week? Or a month, or a year... Of course for the sake of planning and organising it's helpful to have 'time' in the sense of how we understand it and have been taught it, without it, there would be little in the way of planning for things and ensuring people did things all at the same time, we will discuss the notion of 'time' in further articles and videos and as part of the roadmap, but for now, and to relate back to our much battered and bruised Monday, it's helpful to understand our relationship with time and how we flag events and in turn give them weight and unnecessary identities.
Let's say you woke from a very long sleep, one that lasted many months. Time will have lost all relevance at that moment you wake up. You may notice the angle of the sun to determine roughly if it was morning, afternoon or night, but the day, the week, the year would be somewhat irrelevant. It is what it is. SImply a moment, a point of presence that is now.
Or let's say you woke on the desert island that features in the article about Happiness, you've only ever lived on this island, it has its own culture separated from the outside world. Time on the island is simply the passing of the moon and the sun. There are no need for days, or months, or years. Your presence is simply a moment, a moment that passes and makes way for another moment.
But I got to work on a Monday! I hear you cry... well yes, in the constructed, delineated world that we live in, where days have titles and hours and minutes provide a visible track of our day then you do start work on a 'Monday', but if you become present or 'in the now' where time has no meaning, it's simply the present moment, then all of the identity and preconceived ideas around how you should feel about the day should become irrelevant. After all, if there is no time, there is no day, and if there is no day, there is no Monday... which means, you can relax, because if it's not Monday, then all of your pre-built stress and anxiety around it based on what you have learned or told yourself doesn't exist anymore. You have separated the illusion from the truth, which is, that all that exists is now. The past has gone and the future doesn't exist. Enjoy the now, for that is all there is.
I'm sure Monday will thank you for it.